I am getting pretty sick of hearing people throw round the word "Retard" like its nothing. I'm a little confused here. Isn't this word when used in any non medical tone just as degrading as, oh I dunno, The "N" word. How about the 'F" word? It is considered socially unacceptable to throw around these angry,hateful words but Retard? Eh, that's nothing. I don't get it. Teach me.
Better yet explain to this "retard" why you are using the medical term for his condition as a hate word.
Go ahead. Tell him why you feel it is okay to take a word that describes him, back it with your bitterness and anger, and throw it around casually.
Personally, I feel discrimination doesn't come from the actual word but the tone in which it is being used. So, let us go ahead and say someone cuts you off in traffic and you decide to deem them a "retard". Hmmm, well you are implying he is an incompetent, Ahole who cant do anything right. Using the word retard has now turned you into a bully. A socially irresponsible one at that. Way to go. I'd rather be a retarded all day long than be a bully.
Why don't you say it to his face? Yes, him. My brother. He is in fact mentally retarded. He is also insanely compassionate, empathetic and most importantly not devoid of human emotion so when you use the "R" word it hits him where it hurts. He is sensitive to the fact that he "different from the other kid" He knows. He doesn't need that shoved in his face or pointed out. Using the word "retarded" is meant to imply that that's a bad thing. and for him? and all of us that love him? It's not a bad thing. It's a challenge and an obstacle but everyday he wakes ready to attack it with ferocity. By using that word you cut him down and chip away at his self esteem.
Ask an adult with Down Syndrome if they have ever been called retarded. Ask them how it felt. The same way it feels when a chubby girl gets call "fat" or when a young gay man is called a "fagot". It stings. Bad. No one wants to be labeled. No one wants to be boxed in by the color of their skin, their weight, their religion, and certainly not by their IQ level.
Bottom line, TREAT OTHERS THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE TREATED. We have no right to refer to anyone who is in a different station than we are by anything other than their name.